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  E-journal August 24, 2010

Blake DavisNew Survey on Dating, Courtship and Boy/Girl Relationships!!!

THANKS SO MUCH to all of you who have responded to our home schooling survey and told us what you want to hear more about. If you still haven't taken survey of what you want to hear more about, you can GO HERE NOW and share your opinions.

But now our son Blake would like your input. This is from him::

I grew up listening to James Dobson and reading Raising a Modern Day Knight, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girl, Best Friends for Life, Five Love Languages, etc. 

Lately God has been really putting on my heart the study of dating/courtship, honoring of the opposite sex, conservative boundaries, etc. 

So my question to you is this: If you had an opportunity to sit down with Dr. Gary Chapman, James Dobson, Joshua Harris, and anyone else whose opinions you respect about dating/courtship and boy/girl relationships, what five questions would you ask them?

Please take a few minutes and respond to my dating/courtship/relationships survey. It won't take very long and I would appreciate it very, very much.

And if you have a personal story about your dating/courtship or getting married as a home schooler, I'd love to hear it. You can contact me at cblakedavis@gmail.com.


The Importance of Encouragement and Mentors

by Ellyn Davis

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In the last newsletter, I shared that I recently finished reading the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. Anything Gladwell writes is well worth reading, but this book is especially so because it's an analysis of hidden factors in people's childhoods that are critical to their success as adults.

The book asks and answers the question, "Why do some people succeed far more than others?" and makes the case that the achievements of "outliers"--those people whose achievements fall outside normal experience--are less about talent than they are about about opportunity and hard work.

The first critical success factor is what's called  "The 10,000 Hour Rule." In numerous studies of composers, basketball players, fiction writers, ice skaters, concert pianists, chess players, and even master criminals, ten thousand hours of practice is required to achieve the level of mastery associated with being "world-class" in anything. It takes the brain this long to assimilate all it needs to know to achieve true mastery.

Still other studies call it "The Ten Year Rule." It seems you have to put in at least a decade of focused effort to master anything and become a leader in your field. A study of 120 elite athletes, performers, artists, biochemists and mathematicians led by University of Chicago psychologist Benjamin Bloom concluded that every single person in the study took at least a decade of hard study or practice to achieve international recognition. Olympic swimmers trained for an average of 15 years before making the team; the best concert pianists took 15 years to earn international recognition. Top researchers, sculptors and mathematicians put in similar amounts of time.

In a large collection of expert reviews, the Cambridge Handbook of Expertise and Expert Performance, the conclusion is that what we commonly call "talent" or "genius" arises not from innate gifts but from the combination of adequate (but not necessarily extraordinary) natural ability, quality instruction and mentoring, and lots and lots of work.

Exceptional Kids Come From Exceptional Conditions

The ability for anyone to put in 10,000 hours towards mastery of something requires resources - time and space to work, parents who encourage the effort, raw materials, and mentors - and the subjects of Bloom's study, like most elite performers, almost invariably had access to these types of resources. Bloom, in fact, came to see great talent as less an individual trait than a creation of environment and encouragement.

"We were looking for exceptional kids," he said, "and what we found were exceptional conditions."

Few of the study's subjects had shown special promise when they first took up the fields they later excelled in. Instead, they were encouraged as children in a general way to explore and learn, then supported in more focused ways as they began to develop an area they particularly liked. Another retrospective study, of leading scientists, similarly found that most came from homes where learning was revered for its own sake.

This process is best explained in the work of sociologist Annette Lareau. Laureau studied a group of third graders. She picked both blacks and whites and children from both wealthy and poor homes. What she discovered were that there were only two basic parenting "philosophies." Parents who noticed their children's interests, encouraged them, and  became heavily involved in their children's free time and parents who didn't.

The parents of the most successful children talked things through with their children, coached them on how to interact with adults and get their questions answered, exposed them to a wide variety of different experiences, and showed them the "rules of the game" of life. If their children were doing poorly at school, for example, these parents met with the teachers and intervened on behalf of their kids, arranging private tutoring if necessary.
Lareau called that parenting style "concerted cultivation."

In contrast, the other style of parenting was what Lareau called "accomplishment of natural growth." These children were mainly left to their own devices and didn't know how to navigate whatever environment they were in for their best purposes. They were characterized by "an emerging sense of distance, distrust, and constraint."

This study of two different types of parenting reminded me of another important book I read--Endangered Minds. Author Jane Healy explains why children (and adults) today have difficulty navigating life. It's because they don't know how to think. And why don't they know how to think? Because when they were growing up they seldom interacted with adults in ways that encouraged thinking things through, making associations, and learning basic skills for navigating life.

It's Crucial to Have Mentors

The second critical factor to success is having a mentor. Most studies of successful people, including Bloom's, found that almost all high achievers were blessed with at least one mentor at a crucial period of their development.

In her study of giftedness, Dr. lena Subotnik found that students generally realized their potential more fully if they had one-on-one relationships with mentors who prepared them for the challenges they would face after their studies ended. You can read a summary of her research here.

Dr. Subotnik says:

Parental involvement needs to take the form of providing space to work, getting materials, mentors, courses,  etc. It’s very important to expose talented students to teachers who excel in the child’s area of expertise. This too should be done in stages — as children progress, they need different types of excellent teachers because they need different types of instruction at each stage in their development. According to Benjamin Bloom the first teacher nurtures the young person’s love of the field. A second teacher guides in the development of expert skills and knowledge. A third helps with professional contacts and insider knowledge.

Parents should model persistence, resilience, and good social skills for their children. Talented children need to learn how to deal with failure and be graceful in success. They must understand that setbacks are part of the growth process and that they shouldn’t fall apart when it happens. Bumps in the road are part of the game of life.

So, it seems to me that home schooled children have a natural advantage. They have the time and resources to spend 10,000 hours pursuing their interests, they have concerned, encouraging parents who are heavily involved in their lives, and they generally have access to mentors. In short, they are destined for success.

Until next time.... 


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Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. This book deserves a spot on everyone's bookshelf and should be required reading for high school students, along with Gladwell's other two books The Tipping Point and Blink. It is a discussion of the critical but usually unacknowledged factors that contribute to success in any endeavor.

Endangered Minds by Jane Healy explains why children (and adults) today have shorter attention spans, are less able to concentrate, and are less able to absorb and analyze information than any previous generation. In short, people today do not know how to think. And why don't they know how to think? Because when they were growing up they seldom were in the company of thinking adults.

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Several months ago I stumbled across an interesting little guide called 279 Days to Overnight Success. This book chronicles one writer's journey to becoming a full-time, self-supporting writer in 279 days through a blog and several products he created.

The report was incredibly encouraging to me because I’ve wanted for some time to revamp my website and turn it into something that was a real expression of what I believe about home schooling but that also helped others.

 So I resolved to start working on my OWN 279 day path to success. My goal: achieve full-time, self-supporting writer status in 279 days or less. Call it my personal 279 Day Challenge.

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